I started writing a post on Mother’s Day but in truth, it was all a bunch of rambling bullshit. My daughter and I celebrate our love for each other every day and Mother’s Day for us is the same as every day we spend together. Generally her school teachers will have projects for Mother’s and Father’s Days to help the kids create something to take home but this year her class was deep into a multicultural project and it slipped her teacher’s mind. The Monday after Mother’s Day, my daughter came home with a simple handmade candle holder. She apologized for not getting me anything and explained about the project at school. I told her it is fine because for me Mother’s day is every day with her because she gives me hugs and kisses every day.
I feel blessed with her, because we are close and so far we have been able to remain close no matter the issues which might come up. Don’t get me wrong, we will get mad at each other but it doesn’t last long.
We are both looking forward to having our own home which we can decorate and do with as we please. It is getting closer and closer to being a reality. Yesterday, the home inspection was done. Nothing major came up in the inspection, only a few minor things, some of which are the responsibility of the strata, others are mine and one or two which I will have to find out whether they are mine or the strata’s responsibility but nothing that will cost major dollars. As I suspected the appliances are old, and I have plans to replace them eventually. I will need to make a list and expenses involved. The furnace is old but if regular maintenance is performed it should last another 15 years. The hot water tank is reaching end of life expectancy but could also last another 5 to 10 years however I need to plan for it in my budget as soon as possible so I will be prepared if it should suddenly give up the ghost. The home inspection helped ease my mind and didn’t come up with anything I didn’t expect.
I am now tackling the strata docs and trying to understand them. There however seems to be a group of minutes missing which would be the latest from 2015. I have brought this to the attention of the realtor as well as there is no clear documentation stating the responsibilities of the strata versus my responsibilities as an owner. I’ve never dealt with a strata before but my logical mind thinks there should be clear documentation listing out rules and regulations as well as what is covered in maintenance by my strata fees. There was also a statement in regarding insurance and that the owner if they make upgrades to the structure like flooring and such that they should acquire insurance to cover the updates as the strata insurance only covers original installation. I have no idea what was original and what wasn’t so should there not be a document on what was original to each of the homes? If not, then how am I to know what I need to cover in my personal condominium insurance?
If anyone has experience with this please let me know, please keep in mind, I am in Canada and it might be different for what is done in the states or other countries.
The strata is the one thing that can make or break our experience in buying this townhouse. It could end up causing me to not want to purchase at all. But right now it is all I can afford, which means we either buy something with a strata and learn to work with it or we continue to rent and I save money which probably means not buying a home for another five or even ten years. At my age that will make it harder to buy and means retirement is far down the road.
This will be a learning experience for me but hopefully a good one and not a bad one. If I’m lucky it means it will be the only strata I will have to deal with or we will have learned a lot and find out we don’t mind dealing with a strata. The one good thing is I have already met one neighbor who has had a lot of experience with stratas. I have no doubt if I have any questions I could go to her for help. If I can’t get the answers to my questions I may go knock on her door in the next day or so. I may do it anyway regardless of getting my questions or concerns addressed.
Once the deposit is made, I will have a couple months to decide if I want to have AC installed or just use portable AC units. I’m torn between the convenience of central AC and the inconvenience but less expense of portable units. I would most likely need a unit for each floor, which would mean two at least, maybe three. The problem with central AC is the third floor does not have the duct work for the air flow, it has the baseboard electric radiators to heat each room so the cool air would only flow into the first and second floor and not into the third floor bedrooms. The third floor is where I would have the most difficulty putting in a window AC unit or I would have to find a place to store a portable unit so I didn’t have to try and get it up or down the stairs. I’m leaning towards central AC, and then seeing how it goes for the third floor during hot periods. If necessary my daughter and I could camp out in the lower levels if it gets too hot, or we could buy a portable for the third floor. I just need to run the numbers, but I need to get one or two more estimates for installing central AC. I have only one right now.
In regards to my health, some maybe wondering how I am doing. My hair is still growing, however slowly. A friend told me it is long enough now that I don’t look like a cancer patient any more. I saw my surgeon Monday and he told me what to look out for, what I would feel if cancer should come back but otherwise he said everything looks good. I however do have a problem that isn’t in his area so he is sending me to a gynecologist for them to determine if surgery is necessary or if we can do anything non-surgical to fix the problem. My energy levels are good. Physically I’m doing well. Mentally it is hard at times (see my previous post) and my priorities have definitely shifted.
My surgeon gave me a prescription for a prosthesis and bra. I am entitled to one prosthesis and one bra each year that will be completely paid for. There is a pharmacy locally which will help me get fitted. I plan to go there in the next few days. I think it will help tremendously to at least have the appearance of two breasts instead of having the material on my chest go flat on one side, even if most people don’t notice it. He showed me a prosthesis and I was amazed how lifelike it was in appearance. He also said it can be adhered to the chest though I would still need a bra to help support it. I will be interesting to see how it feels and looks.
Time to end this and get on with my day. It will hopefully be better than yesterday which ended up with me taking my daughter to ER after she got hit in the head with a dodge ball which cause her to have uncontrollable twitching. In the end, the doctor said she most likely had a mild concussion and the twitching and bit of headache she had would slowly go away over the next couple of hours. They did, though at bedtime she was still having some slight twitching, this morning she didn’t have any, so she is doing well. It was one of those scary moments for me however which I don’t care to relive.